1. Here’s a great article written by a father to his unborn son on sex. My son is still a new born, but I hope to instill these same values in him. These 6 tips will ensure he has healthy relationships with women and his future wife.

    1. Treat women like people

    Some people make the mistake of thinking they can treat girls like their guy friends. While some girls may accept it, and even fewer will like it, most will not. Guess what, girls are different than guys. I know, its a stretch to understand.

    The kinds of jokes and teasing you make with your guy friends won’t fly with girls. They have different feelings and reactions than guys. Instead of trying to treat everyone like your bros, treat them like people.

    Do you match every male stereotype? Each individual woman won’t meet the female stereotypes either. Don’t treat them like archetypes, but rather get to know each one individually. Care about what they care about, and listen when they talk.

    2. Never use women

    There are a lot of evils in this world that seek to use and abuse women: pornography, strip clubs, and others. Don’t fall prey to these temptations. Women are not made to meet your needs and wants.

    If all you care about is how a woman will meet your sexual needs, you’re plotting to use her. If all you can think about are the benefits a woman will add to your life (cooking, cleaning, making you happy), then you’re also using her to meet your wants.

    Relationships are based upon mutual benefits. You give to her, she gives to you. If you aren’t willing to do anything to make her happy, then you don’t understand the meaning of marriage.

    3. Never place women on a pedestal

    This one is particularly tricky within the church. Many well-intending people try to praise women by idolizing them. Not only is this harmful to the women, who feel like they have to live up to the mountains of praise heaped upon them, but we too are harmed.

    Women are mortal too. Big surprise right? They make mistakes, they need to repent. When we place women on a pedestal we subconsciously create a barrier between us and them, because we think they are better than us.

    This barrier will prevent healthy relationships, because we won’t be able to interact and uplift women. We won’t be able to carry their burdens because we think they don’t have any. It isn’t healthy for us or for them to make women demi-gods.

    4. Nourish your sexual feelings

    We have been given the right to procreation. With this power come mysterious hormones and powerful desires. These are good and God-given. However, they are only to be used within marriage.

    Understand that these feelings should guide you towards healthy relationships. These urges should inspire you to get to know women, to treat them with respect, and to open your heart in love towards them. These feelings should inspire you to date, to court, and later to marry.

    If you try to stifle your sexuality, it will become distorted and corrupted. Instead of pouring weedkiller on your urges, prune them until the time is right, so you can enjoy them in a celestial marriage.

    5. Make marriage your goal

    What guides you in life when things get hard? What gives you purpose and inspiration? If you have a solid goal of a temple sealing, then it will direct all your relationships with girls and women.

    Realize the gifts and blessings associated with this covenant and ordinance. You are promised to gain all that the Father has. Think on that for a moment. You will be blessed with eternal life, infinite wisdom, the everlasting power of creation, and the ability to raise spirit children throughout the eons of eternity.

    Why settle for anything else? Gaining a temple sealing isn’t the end however. You must live your covenants each and every day of your marriage. When you live a celestial marriage, the joy is incomprehensible.

    6. Sex isn’t a sin

    In closing, I want to reiterate what I mentioned earlier about your sexual feelings. Sex isn’t a sin. Those object lessons you learn in youth will make you think sex is a horrible thing. It isn’t. Premarital sex, adultery, and fornication are. Misusing the gift we’ve been given may bring temporary pleasure, but also sorrow and despair.

    Exercising it righteously will bring the greatest amount of joy. Remember that.

     

  2. "Covenants received and honored with integrity and ordinances performed by proper priesthood authority are necessary to receive all the blessings made available through the Atonement of Jesus Christ"
    — Elder David A. Bednar
     
  3. "Jesus Institutes the Sacrament," by Gary E. Smith

     

  4. "O, my beloved brethren, give ear to my words. Remember the greatness of the Holy One of Israel. Do not say that I have spoken hard things against you; for if ye do, ye will revile against the truth; for I have spoken the words of your Maker. I know that the words of truth are hard against all uncleanness; but the righteous fear them not, for they love the truth and are not shaken."
    — 2 Nephi 9:40
     

  5. Why is it important to read the scriptures?

    We all ask soul searching questions in our quest for truth. These questions of the soul can be answered with a study of The Book of Mormon. When asking “Why is it important to read the scriptures?” reference these scriptures:

    "I say unto you, my sons, were it not for these things, which have been kept and preserved by the hand of God, that we might read and understand of his mysteries, and have his commandments always before our eyes, that even our fathers would have dwindled in unbelief, and we should have been like unto our brethren, the Lamanites, who know nothing concerning these things, or even do not believe them when they are taught them, because of the traditions of their fathers, which are not correct," (Mosiah 1:5)

    For behold, it is as easy to give heed to the word of Christ, which will point to you a straight course to eternal bliss, as it was for our fathers to give heed to this compass, which would point unto them a straight course to the promised land,” (Alma 37:44)

    And behold, ye do know of yourselves, for ye have witnessed it, that as many of them as are brought to the knowledge of the truth, and to know of the wicked and abominable traditions of their fathers, and are led to believe the holy scriptures, yea, the prophecies of the holy prophets, which are written, which leadeth them to faith on the Lord, and unto repentance, which faith and repentance bringeth a change of heart unto them—” (Helaman 15:7)

     

  6. "Even though these presiding authorities hold and exercise all of the keys delegated to men in this dispensation, they are not free to alter the divinely decreed pattern that only men will hold offices in the priesthood"
    — Elder Dallin H. Oaks
     
  7. "Master, I have Brought Unto Thee My Son," by Walter Rane

     

  8. A Rational Approach to my Faith

    I’m going through a lot of turmoil lately. It seems like sharing the gospel online has been more difficult than I thought. While the internet (and Tumblr too) is a great place to share your beliefs, there are opportunities to destroy others. I can’t lie and say there isn’t a lot of hate and ill-feelings here. So after some introspection I’d like to present a rational approach to my faith and testimony.

    As I see it, when I die there are three options:

    1. There is nothing. No afterlife, nothing. I cease to exist.

    2. God is nothing like I imagined and believe. He could be a mysterious gas, or a giant purple elephant.

    3. God is loving and respects my desire to follow Him, regardless of whether I aligned myself with His true church or not.

    So lets analyze the results of my current actions to these three results:

    1. I attempt to follow a faith and religion, that turns out to only be an opiate to my mortal life. But, if there is nothing after this life, then why can’t I do what makes me happy now? My religion makes me happy, so obviously I’m not harmed by taking this gamble.

    2. God is not the loving, understanding, merciful being I imagine Him to be. Perhaps He sends me to an everlasting hell for being an infidel. Or perhaps I am reincarnated into a lesser soul because of my disregard for His truth. I will either be punished or not.

    3. God is the loving, understanding, and merciful being I imagine Him to be. He respects my desire to follow His commandments, and my attempts to live a Christ-like life. If I am in the true church, then there are greater blessings tied to my penitence. If I am not, then surely His mercy and grace will still allow a happily ever after.

    Based on my odds, I have a 33% chance of ceasing to exist after this life, 18% chance of being wrong about God and being punished, 16% chance of being wrong about God and not punished, 16% chance of being right about God but wrong about my religion, and 16% chance chance of being right about God and right about my religion.

    This means only 1/6 of the possibilities result in punishment. Pretty good odds.

    There are those however who say, “But what about your church, clearly it’s the spawn of Satan. How can you align yourself with a church that is so corrupt, despicable, and evil?”

    I then look at myself and ask “Am I evil?” Not really. I have yet to see an instance where my faith (not my church, but what I believe and do) has directly hurt someone else. I am not perfect, but when I read the scriptures, pray, and go to church, I find within myself a desire to do good to others, to support them, and to show Christ-like love.

    There are those who will say, “But how can you believe this <deep doctrine either taught or mentioned by the church>?”

    I again look at myself, and think, “Well, I’m not to that point. Right now I’m still learning the milk.”

    Life is pretty complicated. I don’t know if I can accurately give an opinion and describe my feelings for anything that has ever been said to taught by the church. Instead, I focus on the basics. I have a tiny portion in mortality to learn these simple truths. I can wait until eternity to learn the greater truths. Until then I will try to do these three things:

    1. Love God with all my heart

    2. Love my neighbors as myself

    3. Do what brings joy into my life, which includes my testimony

     

  9. "And in fine, wo unto all those who tremble, and are angry because of the truth of God! For behold, he that is built upon the rock receiveth it with gladness; and he that is built upon a sandy foundation trembleth lest he shall fall."
    — 2 Nephi 28:28
     

  10. 700 posts. What?

     
  11. "Jesus Kneeling in Prayer and Meditation," by Michael Jarvis Nelson

     

  12. "Faith is the antidote for fear"
    — President Thomas S. Monson
     

  13. How do I strengthen my faith?

    We all ask soul searching questions in our quest for truth. These questions of the soul can be answered with a study of The Book of Mormon. When asking “How do I strengthen my faith?” reference these scriptures:

    "Wherefore, we search the prophets, and we have many revelations and the spirit of prophecy; and having all these witnesses we obtain a hope, and our faith becometh unshaken, insomuch that we truly can command in the name of Jesus and the very trees obey us, or the mountains, or the waves of the sea," (Jacob 4:6)

    Alma 32

    Yea, I say unto you, that in the latter times the promises of the Lord have been extended to our brethren, the Lamanites; and notwithstanding the many afflictions which they shall have, and notwithstanding they shall be driven to and fro upon the face of the earth, and be hunted, and shall be smitten and scattered abroad, having no place for refuge, the Lord shall be merciful unto them,” (Helaman 15:12)

    And now, I, Moroni, would speak somewhat concerning these things; I would show unto the world that faith is things which are hoped for and not seen; wherefore, dispute not because ye see not, for ye receive no witness until after the trial of your faith,” (Ether 12:6)

     

  14. "Ye see that ye have not power to slay me, therefore I finish my message. Yea, and I perceive that it cuts you to your hearts because I tell you the truth concerning your iniquities."
    — Mosiah 13:7
     
  15. Will you be obedient?